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    • Contact
    • Our History
    • Our Team
  • Victims + Survivors
    • You Are Not Crazy
      • List of Unhealthy Behaviors You Might Be Facing
      • I Look Like The Crazy One
    • It’s Not Your Fault
      • Original Abuse
      • Glossary of Terms
      • Couple’s Therapy
      • Should I Stay or Should I Go?
    • You Are Not Alone
  • Responding to Abuse
    • How Can I Know if it’s Abuse?
      • The Victim
      • The Abuser
    • What is My Role?
      • DOUBLE ABUSE®
      • Complex PTSD
      • Prevent PTSD into C-PTSD
      • Note to Faith-Based Organizations
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Author Archives: The M3ND Project

Healing from Emotional Abuse: 5 Essential Steps to Fully Recover

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectMay 16, 2023Leave a comment

If you have experienced any form of emotional abuse – from family, friends, or romantic partnerships – you may wonder if you’ll ever find complete healing from the painful outcomes of that abuse. Perhaps you have resigned yourself to never feeling “normal” again.  We believe you can find healing and even feel normal again. This…

Spiritual Abuse: Signs and Is Separating Okay for Healing?

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectApril 21, 20232 Comments

Spiritual abuse, or religious abuse, is one of the most damaging forms of psychological coercion which can take years before a person fully heals from the trauma it causes them. Spiritual abuse happens in all religious or spiritual beliefs and systems. It is used within intimate relationships, parent-child relationships, and institutional or organizational structures (churches,…

Trauma Bonding Explained: Signs and How to Break the Bond

Trauma Bonding Explained: Signs and How to Break the Bond

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectApril 5, 2023Leave a comment

The trauma bond created in some abusive relationships can make it difficult, and seemingly impossible to stay or leave the harmful relationship. Trauma bonds to abusive relationships as adults often are a perpetuation of trauma bonds first formed in early childhood.  In romantic partnerships or other intimate relationships with interpersonal violence, trauma bonding takes place…

How to Safely Leave an Abusive Relationship and Not Go Back

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectMarch 22, 2023Leave a comment

If you are in an abusive relationship, it may become so volatile that you can no longer avoid the reality that you need to leave or you may not live. Even then, leaving an abusive relationship isn’t easy and can be more dangerous than staying, if you’re not prepared and careful.  In this article, we…

Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships

13 Overlooked Reasons Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectMarch 8, 2023Leave a comment

If you have ever witnessed a friend or family member in an abusive relationship, you likely feared for their safety, even their life and you would do anything to protect them. Yet, it seems that no matter what you say or do, many women remain in abusive relationships. Seeing them “choose” to stay with their…

Love-Bombed: A Story of Surviving Domestic Violence from Vesper

Love-Bombed: A Story of Surviving from Vesper

StoriesBy The M3ND ProjectMarch 1, 2023Leave a comment

In this story, Vesper (not her real name) met her boyfriend in another State. They had a fast beginning to their relationship when she fell deeply for him. He love-bombed her with affection, attention, gifts, and false promises of a blissful future. Filled with hope and a desire for a beautiful relationship, she moved out…

How to Choose a Relationship Therapist for Your Troubled Relationship

How to Choose a Relationship Therapist for Your Troubled Relationship

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectFebruary 16, 2023Leave a comment

Many of us feel uncomfortable interviewing therapists before choosing them. It’s hard enough right now to find a therapist with the capacity to see new patients. So, when we finally find one “in-network”, we dive in head first. That’s not the wisest thing to do. Have you ever wondered, “Can couples therapy make things worse?”…

Can a Relationship be Mutually Abusive?

Can a Relationship be Mutually Abusive? | The MEND Project

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectFebruary 2, 2023Leave a comment

There’s been significant debate and public discussion about the term, mutual abuse, which has been used to conclude that some situations of domestic violence, psychological or physical, are actually mutual abuse with both people in the couple equally responsible for being both aggressors and victims.  In this article, we’re going to debunk the myth about…

Overt vs. Covert Behavior (Relationship Examples)

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectJanuary 18, 20232 Comments

It’s no easy task to understand overt versus covert behaviors and how they play out destructively within relationships. Yet, understanding is the key to overcoming. Covert behaviors are incredibly confusing and especially difficult to discern. The person within the relationship on the receiving end of covert behaviors often has no idea what is going on…

Healing from a Covert Narcissist with support of family

Healing from a Covert Narcissist: By Michelle

StoriesBy The M3ND ProjectJanuary 12, 2023Leave a comment

We are thankful for Michelle’s bravery in sharing her story of healing from a covert narcissist. She was captivated by the love bombing and, in marriage, became the victim of emotional, physical, sexual, and financial abuse. The stress, shame and confusion kept her silent for years. After nine years and three children, she courageously disclosed…

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Disclaimer: The author of this website, The M3ND Project and its founder, Annette Oltmans, takes responsibility for the presentation of the content of this website. We are not clinicians, but are researchers and desire to help you. We are not trying to vilify any gender, or any person, regardless of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, nationality etc. Our mission is to identify and clarify the single behaviors or patterns of behaviors that occur when covert abuse is present. The material on this website and the services our nonprofit offers are offered to in an effort to serve all victims of abuse. © 2022 The MEND Project. All Rights Reserved.

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