I sat there listening to my friend tell me everything she had been going through in her relationship for the last 10 years. I couldn’t believe my ears. All this time, I had assumed she was one of those women who willingly isolates herself within her man’s world leaving her friends far off while the…
With the New Year upon us, our team has been reflecting on all we are grateful for through this past year. For many, 2021 may have mixed reviews…uncertainty, loss, change. For others, it promulgated significant transformation and growth. Whatever 2021 brought to you, we hope you find peace, joy and healing as you begin 2022…
Phillip spent years trying to figure out why he felt like a slave. “It must be due to my childhood. That’s why I struggle so.” He saw a therapist. Tried to get help. He defended his wife; thought she was his only support. Until one day, the revelation of what was going on hit him…
She is so incredibly mad at me. She says I said something when we were at dinner with her family that I did NOT say, but she insists I apologize for it. Once I apologize for something I didn’t do, she’ll make me apologize profusely before she decides to show me any warmth. I just…
Today’s blog is a story from a brave survivor who courageously shares her story. Survivor stories can be healing and validating for those who are within or have been in an abusive relationship. They are essential for survivors to share. But they also can be very hard to hear; sometimes, we can become triggered by…
I can remember when I worked with kids in the foster care system – you know those children who are taken away from their biological parents because the abuse or neglect they experience is considered to be so harmful that the child cannot be kept safe within the home so the State places them with…
Are you biased against men? No, really, are you? This is not a question typically asked but when it comes to domestic violence, this is an important question. At The M3ND Project, we believe that unconscious biases hinder our ability to see, hear and believe victims of abuse. Gender biases are a common barrier to…
The name itself, “partial confessions”, as a term of abuse may be confusing to some. How can that be abuse? I mean, isn’t that what we want? Someone who is willing to apologize at least in part for wrongful behavior? It isn’t easy for any of us to admit we have failed or to acknowledge…
Until I left him, I really had no idea that how my husband was treating me with respect to the handling of our finances was considered abusive. He told me early on in our relationship that I didn’t need to work and that I should quit my job. But I liked my job, so I…
We at The M3ND Project have identified a recurring and profoundly devastating theme in the lives of those who have experienced harm from all forms of Original Abuse. All too often, when they courageously choose to disclose their abuse experiences and reach out for help, rather than being believed, victims are criticized, judged, interrogated, given…