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Author Archives: The M3ND Project

The Mend Project Founder Annette Oltmans

From Emotionally Abused Wife to a Healthy and Healed Marriage: The Story of Our Founder

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectSeptember 12, 20192 Comments

I can remember sitting there, my head in my hands, feet in the sand, my thoughts spinning in my mind. . .  I feel “crazy”.  How can I be getting this so wrong?  Why do I feel so horrible?  Why can’t I figure this out?  Am I just ineffective at articulating my words?  Will there…

Is This Really My Life? by Victoria

StoriesBy The M3ND ProjectJuly 2, 2019Leave a comment

My heart stopped. I knew my former husband was either dead or again had robbed and ended up in jail. Hands shaking, heart thumping, I made the awful phone call.

Wounds Deeper Than Bruises, by Jessica

StoriesBy The M3ND ProjectJune 28, 2019Leave a comment

My husband’s words hurt worse than fists. I endured constant emotional abuse until I finally saw through him, when he left me at my father’s funeral.

Disclaimer: The author of this website, Annette Oltmans, takes responsibility for the presentation of the content of this website. I am not a clinician. I am a researcher and your helpmate. I am not trying to vilify any gender or any person. I am not diagnosing nor am I trying to punish those who harm others. My mission is to identify and clarify the single behaviors or patterns of behaviors that occur when covert abuse is present. Statistically, women are more likely to be the victims and are also more likely to be aware that problems exist, but that is not exclusively so. In the service of all victims and those who harm them, I offer this information.

I am not affiliated with HWP, MyTime Active or The M.E.N.D. program (Mind, Exercise, Nutrition, Do it!).
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