I Didn’t See The Signs at First, by Jenni
Seeing the way my husband disciplined our sons made me realize something was very wrong. By the time I knew we had to leave, I was so trapped in his lies I didn’t see a way out.
Friends: Loving Them After the Abuse
This month, we’ve been talking about the best ways to love abuse victims. We discussed how victims can love themselves, how to love and develop a healthy relationship with an intimate partner who has been abused, and how parents can show love to their child who has been abused. Today, we would like to speak…
Parents: How to Love Your Child After the Abuse
Raising a child can be one of the greatest joys and privileges in life. With children comes a light and hope of a better tomorrow. Because of their boundless innocence, there is nothing more heartbreaking than discovering that a child in your life is a victim of abuse. Children can experience abuse directly when someone…
Healthy Relationships: How To Love Each Other Well When One of You Is Overcoming Past Abuse
It is a wonderful thing to know that finding a healthy relationship is possible after abuse. It can happen to you too. In this week’s blog, we celebrate this and seek to encourage you to maintain a vibrant and caring connection with your mate, whether you are the survivor in the relationship or their partner.…
How to Love Yourself After Abuse
Many of us struggle to practice self-love, but it can be especially challenging for abuse survivors to master. Individuals who have gone through any abuse, whether sexual, emotional or spiritual, were told by their abuser in either spoken or unspoken terms that they were not loved. Sometimes it’s during the secondary layer of abuse (Double…
The 4 Things Present in Every Abusive Situation
The M3ND Project works to identify and educate on the many faulty cultural and personal structures that make abusive action or inaction possible, especially those that often go unseen, are unnoticed or unknown. To further understand these intricate nuances of abuse, M3ND founder and CEO, Annette Oltmans, conducted extensive research, including interviewing hundreds of victims…
The Subtle Abuse That Invalidates Victims: Minimization
Are you or have you ever been in a relationship with someone who always dismisses, ignores, or downplays your thoughts, feelings and experiences? Abusive minimization is the belittling of the victim’s perspective with the intention to make what the victim values unimportant, thereby killing their confidence, creativity and individuality.(1) An article from Psychology Today defines this…
6 Types of Lies Abusers Use
Lying is one of the most common tactics an abuser uses to gain power and control over their victim. Make no mistake: lying is a type of abuse. It confuses the victim’s reality while helping the liar to shirk from their responsibility in the situation, often shifting the blame to the victim. Bosses, significant others,…
How to Spot a Narcissist
Understanding how narcissists think and behave is critical when discussing covert emotional abuse because their self-obsession often leads them to harm others. Knowing more can help you identify the abuse you are seeing or experiencing. Like with most things in life, there is a spectrum of narcissism. We all have narcissistic traits. It’s not a…
Happy Holidays from the M3ND Project
“Learn to light a candle in the darkest moments of someone’s life. Be the light that helps others see; it is what gives life its deepest significance.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart From the bottom of our hearts, thank you for coming alongside The M3ND Project this year in educating, equipping,…
