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Author Archives: The M3ND Project

Family Christmas

Supporting a Victim During the Holiday Season

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectDecember 20, 2019Leave a comment

For many survivors, the holidays can be a season that brings more stress than joy. This is especially true when abuse has been inflicted within a victim’s close circle, such as a family member or friend, causing them extra fear and anxiety as holiday family gatherings approach. For example, an adult survivor who was abused…

A woman writing her manifesto

Escaping Winter: A Wife’s Manifesto by R.L. Newey

Blog, StoriesBy The M3ND ProjectDecember 12, 2019Leave a comment

This time of year – Christmas, Hanukkah, New Year’s – can be so magnificent. It is a time to gather with family and friends to show and receive love, connection and support. It’s a time of celebration – of faith, new beginnings, life. Yet, for many men, women, and children, this time of year is…

Group Showing Appropriate Touch in the Workplace

Touch in the Workplace: When to Keep Your Hands to Yourself

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectDecember 6, 2019Leave a comment

With the holiday season in full swing, it’s an especially good time to clarify what appropriate touch is. Unfortunately, it isn’t uncommon for people to get uncomfortable at holiday events or gatherings because of someone crossing boundaries. For example, what if you’re at an office Christmas party and everyone has been enjoying a few cocktails,…

From Victim to Survivor: Something to be Thankful for This Thanksgiving

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectNovember 27, 2019Leave a comment

I’ll never forget the moment I was lying down with my two boys in our one-bedroom apartment, certainly a step down compared to the big house from which I’d removed them, when one of my little boys looked around the room, glanced up at me, and said, “Mommy, I love our new home.” It was…

U.S. Makes list of Most Dangerous in the World When It Comes to Violence Against Women

UncategorizedBy The M3ND ProjectNovember 21, 2019Leave a comment

Did you know that the United States is one of the world’s top 10 most dangerous countries for women? The United States shares this spot with countries that permit genital mutilation, acid attacks and arranged child marriages. It was disturbing to see that America is the only Western nation to appear on the list. Why…

When Joking Isn’t Funny: How Humor is Used to Veil Abuse

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectNovember 16, 2019Leave a comment

Have you ever wondered when a “good” joke crosses the line? Have you ever been on the receiving end of a “joke” that felt more like a punch in the gut? Have you ever felt that people are overly sensitive to the jokes that you say? In today’s blog, we share a story about a…

When the Mask Falls Off: by Yaya

Blog, StoriesBy The M3ND ProjectNovember 7, 2019Leave a comment

My fairy tale romance fell apart less than a year into our relationship, but I married him anyway. After suffering abuse for almost a decade, I found freedom in an unexpected place.

Trust your gut. Don’t Be Deceived by The Mask in Front of You

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectOctober 31, 2019Leave a comment

For most of us, when we hear the word “pervert” or “perpetrator,” we imagine someone who fits a specific image. Perhaps, in your mind, abusers look a certain way. Maybe you see them as the tough-looking man or cutthroat woman. Or maybe they look like the creepy neighbor who prefers musty sweaters and old books.…

Living Kintsugi

The Art of Kintsugi: How Scars Beautify and Unite Us

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectOctober 24, 2019Leave a comment

Every scar, whether visible or invisible, tells a story. These marks of life can represent small accidents from personal carelessness, show victories from battles, or triumphs over challenges such as overcoming a mountain climb or running a race. These types of scars are part of the journey, the cost of living, of having adventure and…

Be the Guiding Hand on a Victims Sholder

Keep This in Mind When Responding to a Victim of Emotional Abuse

BlogBy The M3ND ProjectOctober 19, 2019Leave a comment

Has a friend or family member ever talked to you about the way their intimate partner treats them, and the stories shared made your skin crawl? Or, maybe you have heard a lot of “little” stories that add up to an overwhelming amount of harmful words and behaviors. Perhaps it’s your best friend who talks…

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Disclaimer: The author of this website, The M3ND Project and its founder, Annette Oltmans, takes responsibility for the presentation of the content of this website. We are not clinicians, but are researchers and desire to help you. We are not trying to vilify any gender, or any person, regardless of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, nationality etc. Our mission is to identify and clarify the single behaviors or patterns of behaviors that occur when covert abuse is present. The material on this website and the services our nonprofit offers are offered to in an effort to serve all victims of abuse. © 2021 The MEND Project. All Rights Reserved.

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