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    • You Are Not Crazy
      • List of Unhealthy Behaviors You Might Be Facing
      • I Look Like The Crazy One
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      • Glossary of Terms
      • Couple’s Therapy
      • Should I Stay or Should I Go?
    • You Are Not Alone
  • Responding to Abuse
    • How Can I Know if it’s Abuse?
      • The Victim
      • The Abuser
    • What is My Role?
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Category Archives: Blog

How to Respond to Gaslighting (5-Top Ways to Confront the Abuse)

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Recognizing and responding to gaslighting can be a daunting task, but understanding its nuances is the first step towards liberation from its manipulative hold on you. Gaslighting may occur in romantic relationships, family relationships, friendships, at school and in the workplace. If you are experiencing gaslighting, it’s important to learn the best ways for responding…

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What is Gaslighting? 10 Obvious Clues You’re Being Gaslighted

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Most of us are now familiar with the term “Gaslighting”, which is used loosely in response to many situations within diverse relationship types. Gaslighting isn’t always abusive but when it is, it’s exceedingly difficult to spot. It is known as a “hidden” or covert form of emotional abuse. It’s essential to your mental and physical…

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What is Narcissistic Gaslighting? 19-Signs it is Happening to You

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The terms “narcissist” and “gaslighting” are widely used in our culture, but they are rarely understood. Narcissistic gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that is very destructive, more than many other forms of abuse. It is exceedingly difficult to discern and know how to respond. In this article, we provide clarity about what narcissistic…

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Can Abusers Change?

 Can Abusers Change? 5 Almost Impossible Obstacles Explained

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One of the most common questions victims of domestic abuse ask is whether abusers can change their behavior or not.  In this article, we will explore this question in depth by discussing the psychological and emotional profile of an abuser, whether change is possible, and end with a final note about the support a survivor…

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Healing from Emotional Abuse: 5 Essential Steps to Fully Recover

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If you have experienced any form of emotional abuse – from family, friends, or romantic partnerships – you may wonder if you’ll ever find complete healing from the painful outcomes of that abuse. Perhaps you have resigned yourself to never feeling “normal” again.  We believe you can find healing and even feel better than normal.…

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Spiritual Abuse: Signs and Is Separating Okay for Healing?

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Spiritual abuse, or religious abuse, is one of the most damaging forms of psychological coercion which can take years before a person fully heals from the trauma it causes them. Spiritual abuse happens in all religious or spiritual beliefs and systems. It is used within intimate relationships, parent-child relationships, and institutional or organizational structures (churches,…

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Trauma Bonding Explained: Signs and How to Break the Bond

Trauma Bonding Explained: Signs and How to Break the Bond

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The trauma bond created in some abusive relationships can make it difficult, and seemingly impossible to stay or leave the harmful relationship. Trauma bonds to abusive relationships as adults often are a perpetuation of trauma bonds first formed in early childhood.  In romantic partnerships or other intimate relationships with interpersonal violence, trauma bonding takes place…

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How to Safely Leave an Abusive Relationship and Not Go Back

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If you are in an abusive relationship, it may become so volatile that you can no longer avoid the reality that you need to leave or you may not live. Even then, leaving an abusive relationship isn’t easy and can be more dangerous than staying, if you’re not prepared and careful.  In this article, we…

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Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships

13 Overlooked Reasons Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships

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If you have ever witnessed a friend or family member in an abusive relationship, you likely feared for their safety, even their life and you would do anything to protect them. Yet, it seems that no matter what you say or do, many women remain in abusive relationships. Seeing them “choose” to stay with their…

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How to Choose a Relationship Therapist for Your Troubled Relationship

How to Choose a Relationship Therapist for Your Troubled Relationship

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Many of us feel uncomfortable interviewing therapists before choosing them. It’s hard enough right now to find a therapist with the capacity to see new patients. So, when we finally find one “in-network”, we dive in head first. That’s not the wisest thing to do. Have you ever wondered, “Can couples therapy make things worse?”…

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Disclaimer: The author of this website, The M3ND Project and its founder, Annette Oltmans, takes responsibility for the presentation of the content of this website. We are not clinicians, but are researchers and desire to help you. We are not trying to vilify any gender, or any person, regardless of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, nationality etc. Our mission is to identify and clarify the single behaviors or patterns of behaviors that occur when covert abuse is present. The material on this website and the services our nonprofit offers are offered to in an effort to serve all victims of abuse. © 2022 The MEND Project. All Rights Reserved.

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