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On the Mend
Help for Victims (and Allies!) of High Conflict Relationships


We understand. High-conflict relationships cause, stress, and confusion, among other things. Our workshops, and other resources are here to help you clarity, confidence, and comfort.
Additionally, we train leaders and diverse organizations through online courses and continuing education programs providing them with key information and resources that prevent unintentional harm and allow them to help in the most meaningful and compassionate manner.
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We offer a variety of free and paid resources throughout the year. Please browse the offerings below and be sure to sign up for our newsletter to stay updated on upcoming events and resources!
Upcoming MEND Interactive Workshops
TRAINING COURSES FOR SURVIVORS AND RESPONDERS
4-WEEK SURVIVOR COURSE LIVE
FOR VICTIMS OF ABUSE, SURVIVORS, AND ANYONE IN A HIGH-CONFLICT RELATIONSHIP
Finding Clarity and Healing for Past and Present Victims of High Conflict Relationships
April 18, 25 and May 2 and 9 | REGISTER HERE
This just might be our most important course. More than 80% of individuals experience psychological abuse in their lifetime. Yet, most do not know how to identify this type of abuse or how to respond to destructive behaviors within intimate relationships.

They blame or doubt themselves, thinking
“maybe it’s not abuse, it’s just normal conflict.”

Thus, this course provides tools and strategies for
- Identifying the root of constant relationship conflict
- Addressing volatile situations
- Responding to those causing harm when you seek help.
Upon completing this course you will
- Know where you are on the conflict continuum
- Be able to formulate an action plan to begin the healing process
This is a written curriculum with 4 Live Lessons
taught by The MEND Project’s founder, Annette Oltmans.
The Course Includes…
- 7 hours of live sessions over 4 weeks for open, deep-dive dialogue in a safe, supportive environment
- Recorded sessions are uploaded for your future reference
- Private Facebook group for additional support and connection with others
- Short 1-2 minute videos sent to your inbox for inspiration, encouragement, and support
- Additional downloadable resources
- Written curriculum easily accessible 24/7 and available even after course completion
Click the registration link
or email info@themendproject.com
for more information.
Abuse Detection and Intervention
for Professionals
This CE Course is for Licensed Clinicians, Mental Health Professionals, and Therapists
Join instructors Annette Oltmans, MEND Founder, and Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. for a 4-Part APA-Accredited Course that is certified for 9.5 Hours CE Credit.
Upon completion of this course, participants will be able to
- competently identify emotional abuse and trauma
- thoroughly understand abuse
- interface with victims or abusers

Click the registration link
or email info@themendproject.com
for more information.
ON-DEMAND
RESPONDER COURSE
For All Responders Not Seeking CE’s
This 7-Session online course will equip responders to interface with victims of abuse and confront those who cause harm. Participants will learn how to identify psychological abuse, protocols for responding to victims in practical ways, and prevent secondary harm through their responses.

Click the registration link
or email info@themendproject.com
for more information.
ON DEMAND
SURVIVOR COURSE
for Victims of Abuse, Survivors, and Anyone in a High Conflict Relationship
More than 80% of individuals experience psychological abuse in their lifetime. Yet, most do not know how to identify abuse or how to respond to destructive behaviors within intimate relationships.
This course is intended to give you clarity about your circumstances, tools to address what’s happening, and equip you to respond to those who cause harm when you seek their help.

Click the registration link
or email info@themendproject.com
for more information.
FREE UPCOMING EVENTS
AND 1 HOUR TRAINING WORKSHOPS
Teen Dating Violence: Warning Signs and Tips for Prevention
This month we will examine the long-term consequences of Teen Dating Violence and provide strategies to help the teen in your care stay safe and form healthy relationships.
This free one-hour training will be held on Zoom.
2/21/23
Self-Love Deficit Disorder: Signs, Causes, and How to Recover!
We invite victims and survivors to join us as we dive deep into the topic of Codependency vs. Self-Love Deficit Disorder. You will walk away with practical tips for loving yourself and a place of Self-Love Abundance. We are excited to share new perspectives with you and hope to see you there. Reserve your spot below.
This free 1-hour training intensive will be held on Zoom.
3/21/23

WHAT IS MEND TRAINING?
Our various training programs equip groups of survivors or responders who are individuals or organizations supporting victims of abuse and confronting those who cause harm.
MEND: Responding to Abuse is an online comprehensive program that takes place progressively over 7 weeks. Our diverse training cohorts are directed at different audiences: victims/survivors, therapists/counselors, faith leaders, educators, and nonprofits. Complete a contact form to learn how your organization can be trained. MEND Introductory Trainings are short-form trainings provided to responder organizations on an as-needed basis. MEND Training Intensives are free monthly trainings that go deeper into a subtopic within the areas of emotional abuse.
WHAT YOU’LL GAIN
- The ability to defineabusive behaviors
- Quickly identify when someone is experiencing abuse
- Respond in a compassionate manner
- Create a safe place where victims heal and restore
- Best practices for responding to those who cause harm
- Properly address intimate partner violence and Double Abuse in your community
WHAT YOU’LL GAIN
- Comprehensive Curriculum has 14 hours of training over a 7-week period with digital written and virtual live instruction
- An online cohort community designed to help you connect with others similarly aligned
- Exclusive access to weekly live virtual training sessions from M3ND founder, Annette Oltmans
- Weekly virtual live sessions include interactive dialogue and opportunities to ask questions
- Training Intensives are 1-hour, free trainings usually on the 3d Tuesday of the month, 11 months/year; Introductory Trainings are only offered under special circumstances
This course is intended to give you clarity about your circumstances, how to address them, and how to respond to those who cause harm when you seek their help.
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