On the Mend
Help for Victims (and Allies!) of Confused, Troubled, and Painful Relationships
How MEND Helps
We understand. When downward spirals begin in intimate and other relationships, stress, confusion, and self-doubt result. Our Mend Trainings and other resources are here to help you find clarity, confidence, renewed hope, and healing. Often, hidden forms of emotional abuse are the source for relationship conflict. Understanding this could make the difference in your ability to set healthy boundaries and resolve issues. MEND loves to bring clarity to these confusing relationships.
Additionally, we train leaders, therapists, and diverse organizations through online courses and continuing education programs, providing them with key information that allows them to help those in high conflict or abusive relationships in the most meaningful and compassionate manner.
And potentially most of all, we equip these influencers to be ready to always help instead of accidentally hurting the ones they want to help most.
Please browse the offerings below!
And, don’t forget to check out our monthly Free MEND Workshops.
During these workshops, our team goes deeper into subtopics
within the areas of emotional abuse, healing and more.
UPCOMING MEND TRAINING OPPORTUNITIES
Finding Clarity and Healing in Destructive, Confusing, or Painful Relationships
This just might be our most important course. Statistics consistently show more than 80% of individuals experience some form of psychological abuse in their lifetime. Yet, most do not know how to identify this these types of destructive behaviors or how to respond effectively within intimate relationships.
This course, which is designed for anyone in confusing or stressful relationships and victims or survivors of abuse, provides tools and strategies for
- Identifying the underlying source of constant relationship conflict
- Addressing volatile situations
- Responding to those causing further harm when you seek their help.
Upon completing this course you will
- Know where you are on the conflict continuum
- Gain clarity and specific language to describe the destructive behaviors in your relationship
- Begin the healing process and understand next steps you can take
Additional Training Courses
for Survivors and Responders
Coming Soon: Abuse Detection and Intervention for Licensed Professionals
This CE Course will be for Licensed Clinicians, Mental Health Professionals, and Therapists
Join instructors Annette Oltmans, MEND Founder, and Dr. David Hawkins, MBA, MSW, MA, Ph.D. for a 4-Part APA-Accredited Course that is certified for up to 9.5 Hours CE Credit. This course is offered in co-sponsorship with The Institute on Violence, Abuse and Trauma.*
Upon completion of this course, participants will be able to
- Competently identify covert emotional abuse and trauma
- Confidently determine the victim from the one instigating the harm
- Respond informatively and effectively to victims and learn how to address the one causing harm
- Learn what double abuse is and how to avoid it
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*The Institute on Violence, Abuse and Trauma (IVAT)) is approved by the American Psychological Association (APA) to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. IVAT maintains responsibility for this program and its content.
Transform Your Response
to Victims of Abuse
For All Responders Not Seeking CE’s
If you are someone who helps people struggling in life and needing your support, it’s likely that a significant number of them are currently in or healing from an abusive relationship. If you are not trained and informed about the hidden forms of abuse, your responsees can inadvertently harm them in profound ways. MEND places a high priority on training responders just like you who we believe are in the best position to help end the pain victims are feeling and bring them healing.
This 4- Session online collaborative and interactional course will thoroughly equip responders to interface with victims living in destructive and painful relationships by utilizing best practices, emotionally correct language and effective paths for healing. You will also become equipped to identify the subtle signs of trauma or PTSD and learn to respond in ways that will prevent secondary harm through your responses.
Note: Clergy, not-for-profits, and graduate students can receive a 50% discount by filling out this form.
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MEND Private Group Trainings
Many organizations or corporations prefer private trainings with their leaders, staff, volunteers or faculty. Our private group training programs will equip your team to recognize destructive or abusive behaviors within the organization or among the population you serve. In preparing the training program, we pay attention to your unique community so we can effectively help your team identify and walk alongside abuse victims, address the underlying source of destructive relationship dynamics at home, in the workplace or community, and become effective at holding those who cause harm accountable for their behavior.
Our diverse training cohorts are directed at different audiences: victims/survivors, therapists/counselors, faith leaders, educators, corporations and nonprofits.
This training helps responders clearly understand the most confusing, hidden and destructive forms of relational dynamics and psychological abuse. By learning a comprehensive list of terms, definitions and examples of covert abuse, responders become able to recognize when a troubled relationship’s primary issue is emotional abuse. MEND teaches responders how to confirm relationship abuse through simple steps for responding to victims and confronting abusers, as well us how to use groundbreaking tools and resources to bring healing to victims in trauma-informed ways and without causing unintended harm.
Carrying a heart that wants to help couples and bring healing to victims and abusers by itself is not enough for true transformation. A lack of information and training about abuse leads to harmful reactions and incorrect advice from responders, which increases the victim’s trauma and fortifies the abuse. With simple steps for responding to the complicated issue of covert and overt abuse, responders become true catalysts for ending the suffering and leading victims to healing.
If you are (or are perceived as) someone who may be able to help people with their relationships or who are struggling with trauma symptoms, such as depression, isolation, stress and anxiety, isolation, etc., these trainings are for you. MEND’s most typical trainees include therapists, counselors, spiritual mentors, faith-based staff and leaders, healthcare providers, educators, and community service providers.
And yet, the greatest harm to victims often comes from family members and friends who either don’t believe the victim or don’t understand the underlying causes of destructive relationships. This training would be perfect for you too.
Responders of abuse victim training by The MEND project begins at $150 for virtual sessions, and the investment for on-site trainings varies based on duration, travel, and other factors.
To learn more about our unique training opportunities and to get a specific quote, reach out to us via the contact form below, and we’ll be in touch within one business day.
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