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Resolve High-Conflict Relationship Problems!

Live workshops, archived classes, and downloadable resources give you all the information you (or others) need to begin the healing process.

If you have been in, are currently in, or know someone in a high-conflict or potentially abusive relationship, the folks and resources at MEND are here for you!


You are NOT alone. Browse through our workshops and resources below and feel free to contact us with any questions.


And for responders, therapists, and allies, our trainings provide skills to enhance your effectiveness in helping people through abuse and the healing process.

“The missing puzzle piece. M3ND is providing the education, guidance, and resources to empower individuals to properly respond.”


Jennifer Ponce

Director, California Partnership to End Domestic Violence

“Now that I understand, I have a new outlook of my own behavior & a better ability to set healthier boundaries. Thank you for putting this educational information available for those who truly needed it & benefit from it.”


–MEND Student

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The tactics of this subtle, yet complicated and highly toxic, form of abuse are often a victim’s first signs they are in a relationship with an abuser. Covert emotional abuse is the common thread in all relational abuse. These manipulative tactics are difficult to define and cause high levels of stress and confusion in the victim.

In this workshop, MEND Founder Annette Oltmans will

  • Define covert abusive behaviors, using language to help victims advocate for themselves,
  • Share some of its warning signs to help you identify it early on, and
  • Help you decide how to respond.

By learning to identify and detect covert abuse in any relationship, participants will be able to spot early warning signs and become confident and empowered enough to walk away before they are deeply invested in the relationship.

This free 1-hour interactive workshop will be held on Zoom.


10:00am – 11:00pm Pacific
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  • Provide live lessons that establish connections and support
  • Dig deep. Our unique approach uncovers the various covert behaviors that are abusive – with videos and PDF’s describing them
  • Present material for people with a variety of learning styles (reading, listening, speaking)
  • Teach skills with a personable, knowledgeable, and deeply caring team
  • Provide FREE downloadable tools and resources that participants can use for their own clarity and healing and share with friends, families and other allies.

What Others Are Saying…

“I listened to Annette speak about covert abuse…and hung on every word that she spoke. To have someone put into words exactly what I am experiences is worth everything. I may listen to it over and over to remind myself (when things are kicked under the rug repeatedly) what I am really enduring. I am coming out of the fog. It has taken much time. . . . Thank you, Annette for helping other women! God bless you.”

-Stephanie, Survivor

Strews Inc.

“Relevant, organized, and up-to-date. MEND teaches you what you need to know to bring hope and healing in someone’s life.”

– Dr. Ramona Probasco


“The MEND Project’s training is invaluable to any organization attempting to pursue justice and mercy by addressing systemic structures of abuse.”

– Jack West

Care and Recovery Pastor, Mariners Church

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