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Playing the Victim: How Abusers Flip the Script

You tried to explain the harm they caused – but somehow, you ended up defending yourself.

They denied, deflected, and told you they were the ones being mistreated.

When abusers flip the script and claim to be the victim, it’s deeply confusing. It can leave you feeling silenced, disoriented, and unsure of your own reality.

You’re not imagining it. And you’re not alone.

Join us on August 14, 2025, for a FREE WORKSHOP where you’ll learn how to:

  • Understand “Victim Manipulation” – Explore how abusers deny responsibility, shift blame, and use false victimhood to avoid accountability.
  • See the Impact More Clearly – Learn how these tactics wear down self-esteem, prolong harm, and create emotional exhaustion.
  • Respond with Clarity and Confidence – Discover gentle, grounded ways to protect your truth, set healthy boundaries, and seek the support you need.

Join us on August 14, 2025, at 10:00 A.M. Pacific Time. To register (and receive the recording replay), simply enter your name and email below:

If you have been in, are currently in, or know someone in a confusing, painful, or potentially abusive relationship, the team and resources at MEND are here for you! 

You are NOT alone.

Browse through our workshops and resources below and feel free to contact us with any questions.

And for responders, therapists, and allies, our trainings provide skills to enhance your effectiveness in helping people through abuse and the healing process.

The missing puzzle piece. MEND is providing the education, guidance, and resources to empower individuals to properly respond.

Jennifer Ponce

Director, California Partnership to End Domestic Violence

Now that I understand, I have a new outlook of my own behavior & a better ability to set healthier boundaries. Thank you for putting this educational information available for those who truly needed it & benefit from it.”

MEND Student

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Free Workshops

Provide live lessons that establish connections and support

Self-Paced Curriculum

Dig deep. Our unique approach uncovers the various covert behaviors that are abusive – with videos and PDF’s describing them

Present material for people with a variety of learning styles (reading, listening, speaking)

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Teach skills with a personable, knowledgeable, and deeply caring team

downloadable tools

Provide FREE downloadable tools and resources that participants can use for their own clarity and healing and share with friends, families and other allies

What Others Are Saying…

I listened to Annette speak about covert abuse…and hung on every word that she spoke. To have someone put into words exactly what I am experiencing is worth everything. I may listen to it over and over to remind myself (when things are kicked under the rug repeatedly) what I am really enduring. I am coming out of the fog. It has taken much time. . . . Thank you, Annette, for helping other women! God bless you.

Stephanie

Strews Inc.

Relevant, organized, and up-to-date. MEND teaches you what you need to know to bring hope and healing in someone’s life.

Dr. Ramona Probasco PsyD, MFT, NCC

The MEND Project’s training is invaluable to any organization attempting to pursue justice and mercy by addressing systemic structures of abuse.

Jack West

Care and Recovery Pastor, Mariners Church

Subscribe and Get Immediate Access to Free MEND Programs and Resources

Here’s a partial list of the workshop recordings and downloadable resources you will get immediate access to:

Here’s a partial list of the workshop recordings and downloadable resources you will get immediate access to:

  • Models for Responding to Victims and The One Causing Harm
  • What to Do When Your Partner is Treating You Unkindly
  • No One Believes Me
  • What is Double Abuse?
  • Should I Stay or Should I Go?
  • Is Couples Therapy Making It Worse
  • Tools for Pastors