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You Need to Overcome Confusion, Pain, and Stress in Your Relationship
Live workshops, archived classes, and downloadable resources give you all the information you (or others) need to begin the healing process.
If you have been in, are currently in, or know someone in a confusing, painful, or potentially abusive relationship, the team and resources at MEND are here for you!
You are NOT alone.
Browse through our workshops and resources below and feel free to contact us with any questions.
And for responders, therapists, and allies, our trainings provide skills to enhance your effectiveness in helping people through abuse and the healing process.
The missing puzzle piece. MEND is providing the education, guidance, and resources to empower individuals to properly respond.
Jennifer Ponce
Director, California Partnership to End Domestic Violence
Now that I understand, I have a new outlook of my own behavior & a better ability to set healthier boundaries. Thank you for putting this educational information available for those who truly needed it & benefit from it.”
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Understanding Narcissism:
Exploring the Categories and Impact on Relationships
Join us for an interactive webinar focused on understanding narcissism and its impacts. Anyone can be a victim of narcissistic behaviors, either by a partner, parent, boss, or friend, and the impacts can be extensive and devastating.
In this workshop, you'll learn to:
Let this be a step towards healing from the past and moving forward with clarity and confidence. You’re not alone!
01/14/25
TUESDAY
10:oo AM Pacific
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I listened to Annette speak about covert abuse…and hung on every word that she spoke. To have someone put into words exactly what I am experiencing is worth everything. I may listen to it over and over to remind myself (when things are kicked under the rug repeatedly) what I am really enduring. I am coming out of the fog. It has taken much time. . . . Thank you, Annette, for helping other women! God bless you.
Stephanie
Strews Inc.
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Care and Recovery Pastor, Mariners Church
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Disclaimer: The author of this website, The MEND Project and its founder, Annette Oltmans, takes responsibility for the presentation of the content of this website. We are not clinicians, but are researchers and desire to help you. We are not trying to vilify any gender, or any person, regardless of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, nationality etc. Our mission is to identify and clarify the single behaviors or patterns of behaviors that occur when covert abuse is present. The material on this website and the services our nonprofit offers are offered in an effort to serve all victims of abuse. © 2025 The MEND Project. All Rights Reserved.