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We seek to educate, equip, and restore all who are impacted by emotional abuse
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Our Partners
The MEND Project would like to thank ALL of our financial partners for their support and investment in our mission!
A special thanks to:
The Carol and James A. Collins Foundation
City National Bank
The DevTo Support Foundation
Samueli Foundation
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About Our Founder
About Our Founder
Annette Oltmans founded The MEND Project in 2016.
Her personal experience of emotional abuse in her marriage, along with her extensive journey towards recovery, led her to develop the educational resources victims desperately seek to find and responders need in order to walk alongside them in a manner that is helpful and healing.
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If you are in immediate danger contact the national hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) or call 911.
Disclaimer: The author of this website, The MEND Project and its founder, Annette Oltmans, takes responsibility for the presentation of the content of this website. We are not clinicians, but are researchers and desire to help you. We are not trying to vilify any gender, or any person, regardless of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, nationality etc. Our mission is to identify and clarify the single behaviors or patterns of behaviors that occur when covert abuse is present. The material on this website and the services our nonprofit offers are offered in an effort to serve all victims of abuse. © 2026 The MEND Project. All Rights Reserved.