To start, we want to say,
We are so sorry you are having issues both in your marriage and in your couple’s therapy.
If you still aren’t sure after reading those pages, it might help you to know that most victims would say that they are not experiencing abuse. The confusion in trying to name what is happening can be a significant clue that you may be in an abusive relationship.
If you determine that you may be in an abusive relationship, this page about why your couple’s therapy may be making things worse will illuminate which additional problems the couple’s therapy is adding to what is already a very challenging experience.
Most therapists are not professionally trained to diagnose emotional and physical forms of domestic violence. We find it typical for therapeutic educators to believe that specialized training beyond the few hours therapists receive in school should only be required of those therapists who serve domestic violence victims and abusers. Numerous published experts and we believe this to be a seriously flawed stance.