You may be asking yourself, “Does my partner treat me unkindly?” But what does that really look like? Is this normal conflict? Does everyone else feel this way? Maybe it’s just an occasional slight or maybe it happens everyday. Maybe it happens multiple times a day. Maybe there are themes to the unkindness. And yet your partner insists it’s either all in your mind or all your fault. Is it?
You live in a world that carries the message, “this is the norm”. You may feel that everything is going along just as it should. But then, without any warning, your partner takes a swipe at you. A physical swipe. A verbal swipe. Or they shut you out, stonewalling you. You are trying to make sense of what just happened. But, you’re not sure.