Choosing to seek couple’s counseling once the abuser has thoroughly worked through their issues is one of the most challenging and courageous things you can do for your relationship while you consider reconciling. Couple’s counseling with an expert therapist that confronts abuse and its dynamics and the occasional setbacks and successes can be extremely beneficial in helping you heal and grow as a couple and as individuals; however, it comes with unique difficulties as the reconciliation process most often involves facing into traumatic experiences that you may prefer to avoid. In last week’s blog, we discussed critical considerations for couples who are experiencing abuse to bear in mind when making decisions about therapy, as well as how to make wise decisions once the partnership is ready for conjoint therapy. https://themendproject.com/couples-counseling-part-1-when-it-helps-vs-when-it-harms/.
Once you are ready as a couple to attend therapy together, one of the keys to having a healthy experience is having the right expectations going in. Counseling is a process that can be difficult which very rarely satisfies our want for instant gratification. The personal growth in your life regarding trauma and learning to be firm with your boundaries will take practice. Likewise, the partner who has caused harm will not always get it right. There will be setbacks as you both work toward a better relationship. The change might be complicated and messy but the results can be long-lasting and life-changing.
To help you have the best counseling experience possible, we want to help you be aware of some must-know expectations to help set you and your spouse up for success.
The choice to go to counseling with your significant other takes courage and can be a leap of faith. The right counselor will stick by your side and validate your concerns while also confronting harmful behaviors by your spouse in an effort towards truth and clarity in situations to provide valuable tools to overcome tough circumstances. If you want to start the counseling process but are lost on where to start, there are some resources in the footnotes of the blog to help.
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