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How Has The MEND Project Helped You? I was looking for websites which validate the experiences of parents who have gone through hell via
When you’ve lived in a confusing, difficult, or abusive relationship, boundaries can feel challenging and even impossible to set. Many survivors spend years coping,
The phrase detaching with love is a concept rooted in setting healthy boundaries within relationships, especially where abuse has been present. It’s about maintaining
“I hope you heal from things no one ever apologized for.” This phrase resonates deeply for survivors of emotional abuse, coercive control, and any
The MEND Project is here for you. When you’re in a difficult, confusing, or abusive relationship, one of the most overwhelming challenges is finding
Abuse in relationships can take many different forms, some subtle and hidden, while others are overt. One of the most confusing and painful tactics
At The MEND Project, we often hear stories from survivors whose emotional pain was mislabeled as abnormal behavior or unhealthy behavior. This experience has
Emotional abuse, especially when covert or hidden, can be difficult to name and identify. This self-assessment quiz is designed to help uncover subtle relational
How has MEND helped you? I finally understand what happened to me!I not just gained clarity about what I experienced, I understand what happened
My name is Brian, and I just finished the self-paced course: Finding Clarity and Healing in Difficult, Confusing, or Abusive Relationships. I am so thankful
Through her courage and resilience, Kathy offers an eye-opening story of emotional abuse that occurred over the course of her marriage. Her journey speaks
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I Knew the Signs. Why Didn’t I See Them?
How The MEND Project Has Helped Me The MEND Project has helped me better understand the resources, tools, and skills needed for healing after domestic violence. As a survivor, I have learned that healing is ...
Emotionally Abusive Relationship: Common Behaviors
Abuse in relationships does not always begin with physical abuse or physical violence. Some abusive relationships are marked primarily by verbal abuse and psychological abuse, or emotional abuse. Emotionally abusive behaviors can occur in romantic ...
Self-Awareness and Radical Acceptance: A Path Toward Clarity and Healing
Have you ever reacted strongly to something and wondered afterward, Why did that affect me so much? Or caught yourself apologizing, shutting down, defending yourself, or questioning your own judgment before you even realized what ...
Manipulation in Relationships: Signs, Tactics, and How to Recognize the Pattern
Manipulation in relationships means using guilt, fear, confusion, pressure, or other emotional tactics to influence your behavior for someone else’s benefit, rather than communicating honestly and respecting your boundaries. It can be hard to recognize ...
People-Pleasing: Losing Yourself to Keep the Peace and Finding Your Way Back
Have you ever said yes when everything inside you was saying no? Maybe you agreed because you did not want to disappoint someone. Maybe you stayed quiet to avoid conflict, softened what you really thought ...
The Cycle of Abuse: Why the Bad Times Can Be So Confusing
Does your relationship move between periods of warmth and connection and difficult times that seem to keep returning? Perhaps things feel good for a while. You feel close to your partner and hopeful about your ...
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