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The MEND Project’s blog offers articles, personal stories, and more to help victims and responders of emotional abuse.

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A ‘Normal-Life’ Used to Sound Impossible

Nicole’s Life Story of Abuse, Trauma, Hope and Healing

In this story, we are proud to introduce you to a brave, powerful woman named Nicole. She experienced the unfathomable as a child and

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Wounds Deeper Than Bruises by Jessica

Wounds Deeper Than Bruises, by Jessica

In this brave abuse survivor story, you’ll meet Jessica—who experienced covert, verbal, and emotional abuse from her narcissistic husband.  In listening to her story,

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A Wife’s Manifesto

A Wife’s Manifesto by R.L. Newey

In this story of emotional abuse, you’re going to learn: How a wife in an emotionally abusive relationship feels about her husband About how she wishes

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Is It My Fault I Was Abused? Learn Why ‘No’ Is the True Answer

You’ve been the victim of abuse—and now, you’re wondering if it was actually your fault. You’ve spent hours, days, weeks—maybe even years tipping back and

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In Desperation, I Sought the Wrong Refuge – By Abigail

In this survivor of domestic violence story written by a courageous young woman who we will call Abigail, you’ll learn about: The craziness that takes

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Can Abusers Change?

Can Abusers Change? 5 Almost Impossible Obstacles Explained

​A common question victims of domestic abuse ask is whether or not an abuser can change. In this article, we will explore this question

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Healing from Emotional Abuse: 5 Essential Steps to Fully Recover

If you have experienced any form of emotional abuse – whether from a family member, friend, or romantic partner – it can be hard

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Spiritual Abuse: Signs and Is Separating Okay for Healing?

Spiritual abuse, or religious abuse, is one of the most damaging forms of psychological coercion, which can take years before a person fully heals

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Trauma Bonding Explained: Signs and How to Break the Bond

Understanding Trauma Bonding: What It Is and How to Break Free

When abuse is present in a relationship, a trauma bond can form, making it difficult, and seemingly impossible, to stay or leave the harmful

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How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship Safely: A Guide

If you are in an abusive relationship, the situation can become so dangerous that leaving becomes not just necessary but urgent for your safety.

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Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships

13 Overlooked Reasons Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships

If you have witnessed a friend or family member in an abusive relationship, you likely were concerned for their safety and maybe even their

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Choosing a Therapist: A Guide With Questions to Ask

How to Choose an Individual or Relationship Therapist And Identify Red Flags Indicating It’s Time to Exit Let’s begin with a few preliminary points before

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Brians Story of Finding Freedom

Brian’s Story: Finding Freedom After 23 Years of Marriage

My name is Brian, and I just finished the self-paced course: Finding Clarity and Healing in Difficult, Confusing, or Abusive Relationships. I am so thankful I found this material. Reading and listening to the testimonies and ...

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Kathy’s Story: Money Was a Constant Source of Tension

Through her courage and resilience, Kathy offers an eye-opening story of emotional abuse that occurred over the course of her marriage. Her journey speaks to the quiet struggles that often go unnoticed and unspoken, especially when ...

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Recognizing and Overcoming Emotional Abuse: A Path to Freedom, and Empowerment

Emotional abuse can be difficult to identify, as it often doesn’t leave visible scars. However, its impact on mental and emotional well-being can be profound and lasting.In this guide, we’ll break down the complexities of ...

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How Emotional Abuse Creates a Maze of Confusion

Have you ever been in a conversation where you feel things are getting off-topic or out of control, but you can’t figure out how it happened or why?  Or, maybe you’ve attempted to raise a ...

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Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents: What Happens After They Grow Up

The Lasting Impact of Growing Up with a Narcissistic Parent It’s difficult to fully comprehend the impact of a narcissistic parent on a child.  Children of narcissistic parents experience recurring trauma  that leads to interrupted brain development ...

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How to Share Your Story of Abuse and How it Helps You to Heal

Sharing your story—publicly or privately—is a significant step in the healing journey for any survivor. Some prefer to share their story with one or two trusted people. Others may want to share it with groups of ...

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Disclaimer: The author of this website, The MEND Project and its founder, Annette Oltmans, takes responsibility for the presentation of the content of this website. We are not clinicians, but are researchers and desire to help you. We are not trying to vilify any gender, or any person, regardless of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, nationality etc. Our mission is to identify and clarify the single behaviors or patterns of behaviors that occur when covert abuse is present. The material on this website and the services our nonprofit offers are offered in an effort to serve all victims of abuse. © 2025 The MEND Project. All Rights Reserved.