If you are visiting this site because your partner treats you unkindly, you probably have some important questions you are looking to answer.
“Does my partner treat me unkindly?”
“What does that really look like?”
“Is it an occasional slight? Or does it feel like he does that almost everyday, or multiple times a day?”
“Are there themes to the unkindness?”
“Is it my fault, as he insists it is?”
Day by day, you live in a world that carries the feeling of “This is the norm.” You may feel that everything seems to be going along as it should. But then, in a moment, your partner takes a swipe at you. But, you’re not sure. Or, your partner, fairly often, makes jokes that seem at your expense. But, you’re not sure. Or, your partner seems to minimize experiences or feelings that are meaningful to you. But, you’re not sure. Or, your partner seems to put the damper on your excitement. But, you’re not sure. It seems like your partner treats you unkindly. You’re not sure.
We have found that the first step to healing is clarity. Before you can take the next steps, it is essential to identify the behaviors you are grappling with and to understand what they mean.