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Are you biased against men? No, really, are you? This is not a question typically asked but when it comes to domestic violence, this is an important question. At The M3ND Project, we believe that unconscious biases hinder our ability to see, hear and believe victims of abuse. Gender biases are a common barrier to…
I experienced unfathomable abuse as a child. Now that I have children of my own, I’ve had to face the darkness in my past all over again.
The name itself, “partial confessions”, as a term of abuse may be confusing to some. How can that be abuse? I mean, isn’t that what we want? Someone who is willing to apologize at least in part for wrongful behavior? It isn’t easy for any of us to admit we have failed or to acknowledge…
Until I left him, I really had no idea that how my husband was treating me with respect to the handling of our finances was considered abusive. He told me early on in our relationship that I didn’t need to work and that I should quit my job. But I liked my job, so I…
We at The M3ND Project have identified a recurring and profoundly devastating theme in the lives of those who have experienced harm from all forms of Original Abuse. All too often, when they courageously choose to disclose their abuse experiences and reach out for help, rather than being believed, victims are criticized, judged, interrogated, given…
In this week’s blog, we share a story submitted on our website by “Valerie” (not her real name). Valerie’s journey through the family court system might sound extreme to some of you, but it’s not. We at The M3ND Project hear so many stories of adult victims of abuse who lose custody of their children…
When you are feeling fatigued, anxious, stressed, depressed, fearful or other symptoms of trauma distress, it’s important to take time to get grounded and return your mind and body to the present moment! Grounding techniques help protect against symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, anxiety disorders, and the effects of Trauma or Vicarious Trauma. Let’s…
In the last two posts of our blog, we addressed what it is like to be an adult child of a narcissistic parent. Most recently, we shared Stuart’s story. He is a survivor of narcissistic abuse by his mother. Through his story, we showed what it was like growing up with a narcissistic mom, how…
In last week’s blog, we shared what it is like to grow up with a parent who is a narcissistic abuser. We shared the struggles victims have in understanding the abuse they endured and in finding healthy relationships as adults and how they instead commonly find themselves repeating the abuse cycle within their relationships. Often,…
It wasn’t until I was in my third serious and very unhealthy relationship that I began to dig deeper into why I kept picking men who treated me so horribly. It seemed that with every relationship, I was seeking validation of my self-worth but all I was getting was a constant demand to ensure and…