The MEND Project works to educate survivors and responders to identify cultural and faulty thinking structures that cause abusive behaviors. To understand the nuances
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The MEND Project works to educate survivors and responders to identify cultural and faulty thinking structures that cause abusive behaviors. To understand the nuances
Phillip, a male survivor of abuse, spent years trying to figure out why he felt like a slave. “It must be due to my
Has your partner ever refused to talk to you or even look at you? Arguments and misunderstandings happen to everyone, and sometimes, we need
This is a story from a brave survivor who courageously shares her story. Survivor stories can be healing and validating for those who are
When Tom Realized That There Was a Big Problem Like many other male victims of abuse, Tom endured years of maltreatment, both physical and
Valerie’s journey through the family court system might sound extreme to some of you, but it’s not. We at The MEND Project hear so
When a parent chooses to put themselves at the center of attention, forcing everyone and everything to orbit around them, this can be considered
Often, children of narcissistic parents turn to substance abuse as a way to numb the pain caused by their parents. This becomes evident as
What do I say when someone I know shares their experience of abuse with me? This is an important question that we are going
Men can be victims of abuse. This is what Craig’s story reminds us. Like women, they find themselves in sexually, emotionally, or physically abusive
How is catastrophizing in relationships abusive? At first glance, this behavior may not seem very harmful. Yet victims experience negative personal and relational effects
Have you been the victim of covert bullying? In the realm of adult interactions, bullying doesn't always manifest in overt displays of aggression. Often,
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Becoming the Parent Your Child Needs After Abuse and Trauma
This blog was written for us by Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a researcher, educator, and expert in coercive control and its impact on children and adult survivors. You know that feeling when you hear the door open. ...
What No One Tells Protective Parents About Family Court
This blog was written for us by Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a researcher, educator, and expert in coercive control and its impact on children and adult survivors. You went into family court expecting it to see what ...

From Trauma to Triumph: My Journey Through Abuse and Injustice
How Has The MEND Project Helped You? I was looking for websites which validate the experiences of parents who have gone through hell via the family court system. I found yours, which offers an opportunity ...
Boundaries in Abusive Relationships: Learning to Care for Yourself
When you’ve lived in a confusing, difficult, or abusive relationship, boundaries can feel challenging and even impossible to set. Many survivors spend years coping, adapting, and accommodating, twisting themselves into knots, hoping that if they ...
Detaching With Love: A Practical Guide for Emotional Well-Being
The phrase detaching with love is a concept rooted in setting healthy boundaries within relationships, especially where abuse has been present. It’s about maintaining compassion and kindness while emotionally separating from another person's problems, allowing ...
The Truth About Forgiveness and Healing From Abuse
“I hope you heal from things no one ever apologized for.” This phrase resonates deeply for survivors of emotional abuse, coercive control, and any harmful relationship. It acknowledges a reality far too common: many people ...
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