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The MEND Project’s blog offers articles, personal stories, and more to help victims and responders of emotional abuse.

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Pillars of Abuse | The MEND Project

The MEND Project works to educate survivors and responders to identify cultural and faulty thinking structures that cause abusive behaviors. To understand the nuances

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My Therapist Doesn’t Believe Me: Phillip’s Story

Phillip, a male survivor of abuse, spent years trying to figure out why he felt like a slave. “It must be due to my

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Silent Treatment Abuse

Recognizing and Addressing Silent Treatment Abuse

Has your partner ever refused to talk to you or even look at you?  Arguments and misunderstandings happen to everyone, and sometimes, we need

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From Manipulation to Liberation

Joy’s Journey: From Manipulation to Liberation

This is a story from a brave survivor who courageously shares her story.  Survivor stories can be healing and validating for those who are

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When Tom Realized That There Was a Big Problem

When Tom Realized That There Was a Big Problem  Like many other male victims of abuse, Tom endured years of maltreatment, both physical and

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The Not So Just Justice System

The Not So Just Justice System: By Valerie

Valerie’s journey through the family court system might sound extreme to some of you, but it’s not.  We at The MEND Project hear so

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How to Spot a Narcissistic Parent

When a parent chooses to put themselves at the center of attention, forcing everyone and everything to orbit around them, this can be considered

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Stuarts Story

Stuart’s Story Of Narcissistic Abuse By His Mother

Often, children of narcissistic parents turn to substance abuse as a way to numb the pain caused by their parents. This becomes evident as

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A Guide on What to Say (and Not Say) to Victims of Abuse

What do I say when someone I know shares their experience of abuse with me?  This is an important question that we are going

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One Man's Battle Against Domestic Abuse

Unveiling the Truth: One Man’s Battle Against Domestic Abuse

Men can be victims of abuse.  This is what Craig’s story reminds us.  Like women, they find themselves in sexually, emotionally, or physically abusive

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Why Partners Who Catastrophize Are Abusive

How is catastrophizing in relationships abusive?  At first glance, this behavior may not seem very harmful. Yet victims experience negative personal and relational effects

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Unveiling Covert Bullying: Understanding its Hidden Tactics

Have you been the victim of covert bullying?  In the realm of adult interactions, bullying doesn't always manifest in overt displays of aggression.  Often,

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Becoming the Parent Your Child Needs After Abuse and Trauma

This blog was written for us by Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a researcher, educator, and expert in coercive control and its impact on children and adult survivors. You know that feeling when you hear the door open. ...

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What No One Tells Protective Parents About Family Court

This blog was written for us by Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a researcher, educator, and expert in coercive control and its impact on children and adult survivors. You went into family court expecting it to see what ...

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From Trauma to Triumph: My Journey Through Abuse and Injustice

How Has The MEND Project Helped You? I was looking for websites which validate the experiences of parents who have gone through hell via the family court system. I found yours, which offers an opportunity ...

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Boundaries in Abusive Relationships: Learning to Care for Yourself

When you’ve lived in a confusing, difficult, or abusive relationship, boundaries can feel challenging and even impossible to set. Many survivors spend years coping, adapting, and accommodating, twisting themselves into knots, hoping that if they ...

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Detaching With Love: A Practical Guide for Emotional Well-Being

The phrase detaching with love is a concept rooted in setting healthy boundaries within relationships, especially where abuse has been present. It’s about maintaining compassion and kindness while emotionally separating from another person's problems, allowing ...

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The Truth About Forgivness

The Truth About Forgiveness and Healing From Abuse

“I hope you heal from things no one ever apologized for.” This phrase resonates deeply for survivors of emotional abuse, coercive control, and any harmful relationship. It acknowledges a reality far too common: many people ...

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Disclaimer: The MEND Project is a registered 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization. The information on this website and the services we provide are offered for educational purposes in an effort to serve those impacted by abuse. While we are not clinicians, we are committed to research and to helping identify and clarify harmful behaviors and patterns when covert abuse is present. We do not seek to vilify any gender or any person, regardless of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, nationality, or other identity. © 2026 The MEND Project. All Rights Reserved.

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